Some days I feel a deep, inner void that makes me feel completely empty. It’s a part of me that needs attention and care, but does not get it. It is starving.
Emotional starvation is something all of us have experienced at some point in our lives. It is when a need is not being met, and that part of us goes unnoticed. That aspect is suffering to the degree, that it feels like it’s dying. When we are unaware of this aspect of ourselves, the feeling of desperation completely takes over, and because of this many of us seek to fulfill the need in unhealthy ways…
So many of us are living our lives oblivious to what we actually feel on a daily basis. We are not connected to our own emotions, and because of that we don’t understand why they are even there. A lot of us don’t question what we feel, and therefore most of us don’t stand a chance to meet our needs in healthy ways.
Our feelings are our inner guidance system. It is our compass through life, telling us which way to go. There is a reason behind our feelings, even though we are not taught this when growing up. When I feel the sensation of joy, that’s a sign that I’m in alignment with my desires. It’s an indication that I’m on the right path. When I feel anger, that’s a sign that my boundaries have been broken, and that something is not in alignment with what I desire.
The thing is, we do not understand emotions, because we live in a society that does not understand emotions. Because of this we don’t know how to tune in to our own feelings, which causes us to suffer.. and what causes us to suffer even more, is the fact that the people around us are not capable of attuning to how we feel, and that means that not only do we suffer, we suffer alone.
Loneliness is a huge problem today. Even when we are physically surrounded by others, the feeling of being lonely is still there. This is because the loneliness we are feeling is in fact a symptom of us not being attuned to one another.
In our society we are almost expected to do everything on our own. Even in the spiritual community, it is expected that we fulfill all of our own needs ourselves. The thing is, we are all connected. We can not disconnect ourselves from each other, even though we try to and often are encouraged to do so. It is not our natural state of being.
We live in a multidimensional universe where we co-create our reality with the people around us.We need each other. This is an important realization for us at this point in time.
For us to attune to another person’s feelings, we have to let go of our own perspective and get in theirs instead. It requires that we trust ourselves and our ability to sense the other person, and it also requires of us to be vulnerable and authentic. This is especially true, when we are the ones letting other people tune in to us, as there’s no hiding. They will feel the truth of who we are.
I have noticed that a lot of people, including myself, are lacking the ability to communicate their emotions and needs. I know for myself, that sometimes I simply don’t know how to express them. It makes me wonder, how might it feel to have someone in my life that would actually be able to attune to my emotions (with the intention of caring for me), without me having to explain them, especially the times where I do not feel capable of doing so? I think the emotional starvation would cease to exist.
Connecting to our emotions, as well as to other people’s emotions, are essential for living a happy life, because it is what guides us to it.