Since I was young I have been wondering about my purpose. In my teen years I spend a lot of time searching for it, but without ever really finding it. It was a great deal of stress to me. I tried one job after another, and I tried out many different educations as well, but without ever having that Heureka moment, that I was so desperately trying to have. This year I came to a realization, and it made me stop chasing my purpose, for the first time in my life.
The realization was this; I’ve been searching for my purpose (to the point where it was painful) because I needed it in order to validate my existence…
In our society, to just be, is not enough purpose for us to be alive. Many of us have the belief, that we have to live our lives in terms of what we can contribute to society, and that we have to be ”successful” (good career, lots of money, lots of friends and so on), in order to be deserving of our lives.
This belief (of having to be deserving of our life by justifying it, with what we have to offer) is not the truth at all. It is a lie. No one on this planet has to justify why they are alive. The fact that you’re breathing is purpose enough for you to be here. The end. Nothing about this life we have is about finding the right way to live it, because there is no right or wrong way to live life. Everything is “just” an experience, and every experience is as valid as the other. A multi millionaire does not have life more right, than a person with no money. It is simply two different experiences.
We do not need to have a purpose to feel good about being alive. That is not to say, that we did not have an intention for coming to this life, because we did. But not following that intention is just as valid as to follow it. It is certain that we did not come here to suffer, and if we suffer when trying to find our purpose, it is a symptom that we’re not trying to find it out of curiosity and joy, but out of obligation.
We need to let go of the pressure that we hold towards ourselves and realize, that we have chosen to come to this life. It is up to us what we choose to do with it and what we wish to experience. You have chosen to be alive and be you as to experience your perspective. That is your purpose, which means you are your purpose.
So instead of figuring out what you should be doing with your life, ask yourself, what do you want to experience?